Today I want to talk about “Lazy”!
The famous Tony Robbins once said: "People are not lazy. They simply have impotent goals - that is, goals that do not inspire them." That is 100% true and I would like to add more to that.
“Lazy” is the label we use when we see a lack of action (yourself or another person is either not doing what we think they should be doing or says that they want to change something, but not doing it) but we don’t see what is stopping them.
And because we humans need to rationalise everything, we came up with the label “Lazy”.
But, if you don't see reasons it doesn’t mean there are none. The truth is there always are!
“Lazy” is not a personality trait it’s a state created by different internal and external factors that are not obvious to someone who doesn’t have knowledge about human behaviour and psychology. Let me give you a few examples.
They might not feel motivated because they:
Have been misled by a false goal - something they think they should want instead of what they really what.
Are not fully present to the negative consequences and positive outcomes of changing.
In their internal value system, there is a value(s) that is(are) higher than the one behind their goal.
They might feel stuck because they:
Are not sure where to start, how to proceed and overwhelmed by the size of the task.
Don’t have the physical and mental energy, their mind is taken over by the stresses and emotions of daily life.
Are not confident because they lack certain skills.
Are demotivated by different forms of the unconscious “what’s the point?” conversation.
There is hidden (or obvious) resistance in their social environment or too much pressure that triggers them to rebel.
So, next time you want to call someone else (or yourself) lazy, I invite you to pause and remind yourself that you are simply not seeing all those hidden reasons that are holding that person back.
And if you want to help someone or yourself to get out of the “Lazy” state, stop pushing and labelling, have patience, compassion and curiosity to look deeper, find and address the real underlying reasons that create that state.
I love helping people to get unstuck and supporting them on their journey to a healthier and happier lifestyle. If you would like some help with that, send me a message to schedule your initial consultation or join my Motivation workshop this coming Sunday.